Transgender: a mother’s story | Susie Green | TEDxTruro

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Susie Green shares the inspirational story of her transgender daughter, who told her when she was four that she should have been born a girl. Susie is the CEO of Mermaids, a charity that supports gender variant children, young people and their families. Susie became involved with Mermaids when she needed support for her daughter, Jackie. Susie has expanded the charity’s capacity and funding, as well as developing the services it offers. She campaigns for the provision of more services and respectful media representation of transgender people. This talk was given at a TEDx event using the TED conference format but independently organized by a local community. Learn more at https://www.ted.com/tedx

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  • This is beautiful, she had mentioned that this doctor that helped her daughter with puberty saved her daughters life, but i believe she saved her, her devotion as a mother, an extremely loving mother, drove her to find this doctor that would help her child even though he was half a world away. This mother and daughter are extremely lucky to have each other.

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  • I dunno why but i cried while watching this. Being trans must be such a hard thing for a child.

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  • Well I’m glad things turned out good but my self do not believe in children transitioning myself

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  • I’m ftm and my mother hates me

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  • i love this

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  • "Why is Jack growing his hair and wearing girl clothes?" "Ooh, didnt you hear? He has a girl brain in a girl body" "oh ok"

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  • SHE IS SO PRETTY!

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  • I am sorry for your daughters struggles. You are a wonderful loving mother.

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  • What a story. I hope this human is happy and has a good mental health outlook today.

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  • Okay but jackie's beautiful,like a lit lot lot oh damn my bi heart

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  • I went through the comments expecting a hoard of negativity, but I'm so overwhelmed at the positivity here. I live in the States, where they're constantly trying to tear us down. It's nice to know that somewhere out there we have a wave of support ♥

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  • Butterflies..everyone TG must watch it..strength to us all.

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  • this is hands down the greatest video that i have ever watched. Jackie is sooooo beautiful!

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  • beautiful video!

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  • What a great mother.

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  • I cried

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  • How does a six year old child even know about 'the operation'? How do the even have knowledge of gender reassignment surgery at that age? I don't object at all to letting children live however they wish and kids with gender dysphoria need help, but why is it so quickly medicalized? Also, the idea of having a 'girl brain' for liking dresses and barbies is extremely sexist and adheres to restrictive gender stereotyping of women.

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  • Yas queen

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  • I now know where all the crazy liberals band together😂😂😂

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  • being trans is a mental illness

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  • Your daughter's so pretty! I love how supportive you are 💕

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  • What a selfish woman, her daughter overdosed and SHE was the one put on suicide watch

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  • Foolish mother.

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  • This woman is a mad ideologue - she took her child to Thailand to undergo full SRS (castration) for their 16th birthday. She and her organisation have so much influence on this issue in the UK, it's frightening. I hated being a boy growing up too, it's not uncommon. It's really not something that should be medicalised in children.

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  • Wow this is a good mom. I love this mom :’)

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  • I THOUGHT THIS WAS MY MUSIC TEACHER FROM THE THUMBNAIL BUT IM SO GLAD IT WASNT

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  • 9:45 😱 overdose?!

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  • 4:06 I'm crying 😢

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  • He wanted to be a girl because society doesn’t let boys be feminine.

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  • This is truly sad. Don't they realize that once you change their gender that kid can never have kids on their own. That's crazy though how much bullying they go through. I mean I personally don't know how anyone could deny themself and want to change. I'm trying to understand.

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  • She’s beautiful wow

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  • im a trans guy and im not out to my family yet because my mother isnt even accepting of me wanting "boys" clothes and wanting to shave my head and it just makes me wish i wouldve realised this when i was 4 or 5 instead of 14. i hope ill be able to tell my mom before i turn 18 and get the support im looking for. great speech.

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  • Yuck

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  • Worst mother award

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  • Jackie is gorgeous and this is a mother who knows how to be a mother. My friend is ftm and I will always support him. Through secondary school, teachers were understanding and no parents complained. Sure, some of the boys mainly were incredibly negative but he knew better because everyone supported him. When he began to self-harm I knew I had to be there for him no matter what as his parents weren’t. He is now a handsome young man who has just started a different college to me and although we don’t speak so often, he means the world to me.

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  • The Tavistock institute recommended transition? why am I not surprised, This nightmarish social engineering dystopian institute needs exposed!

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  • Jackie is gorgeous! She reminds me a little bit of Rumer Willis. It breaks my heart however to hear about how she was treated, it LITERALLY breaks my heart and brings me to tears. I would have loved to have been her friend growing up. I will be sending all my love her way. Stay strong beautiful girl. I don't know you but I am so thankful for you. A little storytime of my experience with a boy that loved to wear dresses and tiaras: So in 2017 I was a nanny for two kids, a boy aged 9 and a little girl aged 5. One day after school the little girl wanted a playdate with a friend of hers. That was no biggie and we invited him over and they had some snacks and then they went upstairs to play in her room. When I went up there to check on them I could hear them sing Frozen's ''Let It Go'' from this little singing book she had. I went in the room and sat down with them and listened to them sing. The little boy then puts on this little princess tiara and these plastic cinderella glass shoes and he looks at me with the brightest eyes, and the brightest smile I have ever seen and says ''Look, I'm a princess!'', he even did so with a slight lisp on the princess part (pwincess). I looked at him and probably had the biggest smile on my face as well and I said ''You sure are!''. They sand and played together for a bit longer until he got picked up. This little boy is without a doubt one of the kindest, adorable and most polite kids I have ever taken care of. Not to mention that adorable bright smile and the beamy eyes that always brings a smile to my face. This is just a particular moment and memory that I carry with me and every time I think about it I am instantly brought to tears, every time I mention this to anyone I tear up. I just get brought right back to that moment, where this child in front of me was just glowing with pure happiness and I just cry. It is a memory I hold so dear to my heart. Moms like the one in this video is the kind of mom I intent to be. Wholeheartedly accepting and unconditionally loving.

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  • I don't have much memory at 6,can't understand how a child that age would know about gender and the operation,no one would even pay any attention to me if I said that,plus a child that age would play with anything . Isn't this more about the parent than the child.

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  • She beautiful 😱😱😱 oh wow, times like these I think I may be Pan (I’m bi)

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  • This made me cry - stupendously beautiful speech

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  • i appreciate you telling this intimate story. You are an inspirational Mother

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  • Im a trans guy, and this really makes me feel good to know that there is hope for the kids whose parents are accepting, but the one's who don't have supportive families have to power through it, and maybe one day they won't have to..

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  • ❤❤❤

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  • Most of the time there is a dominant controlling mother involved THE MOTHER was frustrated nobody else!

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  • We are backing you all the way ❤️

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  • omg !!!! i love this sm

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  • this was beautiful

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  • I wouldn't be mean to someone like this but if my girlfriend said she was born a boy it would be over for me i don't think I could ever get passed that because if she committed a murder and left DNA the police would be searching for a man not a woman . You can put a Chevy engine in a ford truck and run it but that doesn't make it a Chevy

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  • I also hate the word "trans". I am a man, why don't you just refer to me like that?

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  • I cannot describe how happy this story makes me

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  • I'm so glad I found this.

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  • Your love for your daughter saved her life too. Much love to you both!

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  • At least Jackie knew from a early age for some it takes years to work out what they want

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  • This is sad how could she support such a thing and take it seriously I mean the kid was 4! Also making people think you are something you are not is bad this is why am never getting married because my future wife could not even be a man

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  • Why is this mum so cool compared to my mum (when regarding trans-ness)

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  • she? more like it!

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  • kill it with fire

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  • B L E S S

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  • at ten years old she looked just like my cousin Laura

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  • She is so lucky to have such a supportive mom and got to be who she wants to be. My parents made a different decision and kept preventing me from trying to be a girl. They got mad when I acted like a girl or played with other girls in school. They knew this all along and when I decided to tell them and tried to make it official, they said to me they 'won't allow' me to become a girl. I only have one older sister and she though that I was out of my mind for telling my parents and just told me to stop being nonsense and acted like a boy. It left like I did a really really bad thing. After that, I haven't talked to my family about anything in my life at all. When I graduated, I moved abroad, cut contact with my family and tried to find a place where I can be myself. It's still really difficult for me to tell people in my life that I wasn't born a girl because I still feel like it is a crime for me being like this.

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  • If you found God and taught your SON not daughter about God he will heal him

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  • That was beautiful.

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  • this is beautiful and jackie is so strong

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  • Can she be my mum please ;n;

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  • I want this lady as a mom!!

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  • Amazing mother!!

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  • She is so pretty! And I am so happy that her mom is so understanding and supportive, that mom deserves a frickin' trophy!

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  • Ayyyyyeee Boston Children’s Hospital. That’s where my endo is

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  • Can’t imagine what a child or a teenager feels when they need to defend themselves against the whole world and parents included. The feelings of loneliness, rejection and despair for those vulnerable young humans. As a mother of a 3 y.o. boy I cried the whole thing. The world is cruel but if parents on their children’s side they all can make it. Especially if parents as strong and loving as this mother. But it isn’t easy. How much courage it takes to go against the stereotypes, society, even one’s husband. How much doubt and anxiety she went though making those decisions not knowing if it’s right. How many sleepless nights she passed through in terror for the life of her own child. Jackie is blessed to have a mother like that. And every child deserves their parents by their side. If we can talk about all that now and spread the knowledge we can avoid so many mistakes in future. Thus I believe the world can be a better place.

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  • We really need to categorize this as schizophrenia

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  • Why don't we treat schizophrenic with the same amount of compassion tell them that yes all their delusions are real

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  • im not crying

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  • It's crazy to me that little kids are more accepting than full grown adults

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  • right now my family is going through this. I am going to show this to my mother, hoping she’ll understand more than what she does. thank you♥️

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  • I’m crying about how happy I am for her like omg

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  • amazing.

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  • child abuser! how about helping your child to be the gender they are rather than castrating him?

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  • I’m a trans person and I was just watching and enjoying the video but I soon as she said “she’s happy, and Isn’t that all that really matters” I lost it

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  • I dont like it when a guy suddenly decides to be a girl but im fine with a trans as long as they have had the surgery. But this is mainly because you dont know what creeps are out there.

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  • I’m glad to see all the supportive comments gives me hope

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  • Jackie is beautiful

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  • Jackie is so pretty wow

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  • She is so gorgeous, like she is absolutely amazing and I’m so happy she gets to be herself.

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  • You never hear the stories of the parents! I love this!

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  • Susie Green, you should have punched Piers Morgan and the bigot sitting next to you in the face!

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  • This makes me happy ❤️❤️❤️

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  • Best wishes to Jackie and her family.

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  • Wait, does this mean you and her father got back together? I can't tell if that was the case or if he just became more accepting. Not that you're obligated to take him back after that even if he learned, don't get me wrong, but if you DID, well that's really super sweet.

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  • I would have ne idea if you had not told me

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  • Hang on a sec, I have to throw up.

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  • YouTube: " Your video will play after this unskippable add, but also then this one too"

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  • I respect all genders, sexualities, etc. if only people were more tolerant, kind and respectful!

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  • This is just amazing! Love her and her story

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  • Am cryin a river here, can anyone help me?

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  • so we’re ‘othering’ the few? or is it the case the few are ‘othering’ the many? recourse to emotionalism doesnt cut it. facts will always trump feelings. the tail is wagging the dog. there is a satanic agenda to destroy God’s creation. buzzfeed and tedtalk are leading the way

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  • I'm not crying, you're crying!

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  • That's a dude.

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  • It's nice to see so many positive comments one here.

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  • 1: posession ! Try to people get confussed about their idenity ! Full posession - proces ! Is it karma ? Is it jelousy ?

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  • I'm about halfway at eyeholes just cry

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